My first choice oil for calming and soothing is always Lavender first. Especially at night. I put it on the soles of my feet, and around my temples and neck. I will diffuse it as well. Lavender is so gentle it can be used on children. I also put some on my pillow.
The second oil I use is the Peace blend. It’s made up of Vetiver root, Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, Clary Sage, Marjoram, Labdanum, Spearmint. It comes in a roolerball with fractionated coconut oil already in it and I slather it around my chest, neck and wrists.
Doterra rose comes in a rollerball bottle, so it has fractionated coconut oil in it. Rose is such an expensive oil that diluting it in a rollerball is an affordable way to have access to it. I don’t diffuse anything in a rollerball bottle.
I take a drop of Frankincense under my tongue daily. It’s considered the King of Oils. It crosses the blood brain barrier. It’s good for calming your nerves. Occasionally I diffuse it as well.